Hello ! Happy Birthday to me and this is my birthday blog , flashback of journey from 26-27 orbital of the Sun. It would be very out of flow in structure please ignore , If you going to read it All the best !
All right Today I’ve a set of mix feeling here of being happy and sad.
Happy > Of course its my b’day
Sad > There are multiple factors for this. I’ll talk and write here.I’ll talk to myself and write here as in different state of my mind .
State of Somberness
- Aging : Being 27 is taking me near to 30’s (which definitely scares me )
- I’m still Single and ‘Not Committed’ yet ! ( I’m also happy about it !)
- I’m not ‘there’ yet in Guitar and Dance as per my expectation.
- Cheltenham (Gloucestershire ) Flood 2007
. Its sad to witness the flood in 2007 there in Cheltenham . Gloucestershire was the worst affected county .It was massive and affected everybody including us . I remember it very well ,whole town was out of water and almost everything was shutdown including :Hospitals, Shopping Center , food joints and even pub !I’m not trying to be funny here but that was serious . we spared in mineral water bottles from more than a week.I remember the day when I specially went to office to have shower and wash my l-o-n-g hair . I wish not to see such of things ever ,anywhere in this world and I Hope world wake before any nature disaster stand up again against Global Warming and do think about Mother Nature first . Its strange coincidence that I’m writing about flood when Our country hit by flood in Bihar due to Kosi river. Here is the Wikipedia link for more info here
I don’t know its just about a dance partner or woman or Indian girl . Whatever applied here ..as this incident disappointed me to some extnet ( WTF ) . So let me introduce you first with my dance partner , Neha . We grown as a good friends since we met as salsa partner plus as she was committed to her long term boy friend , this further strengths us our friendship as I could trust her that we should be doing “strictly dancing” 
Even when I was away for a year in UK I was in touch with her. Not to mention I helped her in solving her personal and professional problems when she was struggling dancer . We often meet whenever I came back to India for short break , gifted her couple of nice things as well .
So after my final return to India ,I joined back my salsa classes again with her . We started practicing for upcoming stage show on 29 June but just before the workshop WTF !
she ditched me saying “I can’t do the show , coz I need to go on vacation” .I tried to sit in a conversation and keen to know the reason for this and even I suggested her feasible solution to truncate some of her vacation days and have 2 short things rather than only 1 thing and ignoring our hard work so far . But she ignored my suggestion rudely plus I sensed here she was not “discussing” me she was “telling” me . She showed her true color of not being courteous enough . There was also another incident next day when I asked her to come to dance class to figure out this mess and discuss with our trainer the possibility for any other “alternatives” ( if any ) . That was the last day we talked and I bid goodbye to her forever. She gifted me some perfume from her native town against my consent and now I find that they have lost their fragrance !
Yes , I was ! and some Asshole made a transaction of 34,000 INR ( ~= 526.756 EUR ~= 426.11 GBP ) in a single day . I remember all extreme conditions I came back from Poland when I nearly had no money / Visa valid till that day / Phone balance in 1.50 GBP / Phone Battery about to die anytime .But it was my attitude that allowed me to handle all such by myself and yes I Survived, indeed !
Last Month I lost my sony Pi1 my adorable baby.It fallen off from bike and I never realized it when . It was on my ‘must-have list ‘ for so long . I was the proud owner in Jan07 but lost in July07 . It was shocking as it was my baby ( as any other gadget would be for a Gadget Lover) it had all my archived msgs ,photos,videos , contacts. I’ve bought same cell again after one hour of separation as definitely can’t live without it !
State of Gloominess
Yeah it happened to me and this time it was serious one . I determined and wished get married with this lady .I know you must be thinking why its been stated in “Gloominess” section well you guessed it right , In fact I don’t like it either but that what happened to me or restating it “Its been done for me “All right so here she is : ANUSHKA ( name changed of course ! Just for the sake of her respect , As I don’t want to blow her identity, as I do love her ) Well she is the same one to whom I’ve already proposed once before leaving to UK , she didn’t accepted me neither denied me ( reason: “she didn’t want to hurt me” WTF! ) and she ‘chose’ to kept a distance apart and count me as a friend (well Thanks for that ) but some things do hurt no matter how much you try to hide it . Its just the matter of thinking weather you are hurting actively of passively,directy of indirectly , there is no excuse to break my heart to anyone. I would pay all my due respect to her .In UK I fallen for some random woman in club and we clicked for “small-do die” relationship for a while . When ANUSHKA came to know about it , she got agitated and refused to talk to me , stating “Last e-mail from her side” and we bid goodbye to each other . Though it was kind of painful for me as I didn’t understand what she didn’t liked in me , give if she hasn’t accepted my offer why she is so furious ? Natural guess was “Dude she doesn’t like you know , but she have something in her secret chamber , thats why ” and other one “May be she started liking you now ? “I initially kept it ignoring to approach her back ( as I was flying high with temp relationship ) and when the temp thing was over . I had fallen on the ground , realized it again and in the mean time I had developed a strong affection for her ( as she was rigth ) .I let it ignored and let myself bear the pain . We had 8 months of cold war . When I came for first time back to India for short break in December , I decided to approach her again by analyzing two factor :
a.) She might liked me thats why she discontinued talking to me
b.) She might forgive me.So I wrote 10 page “hand-written” yes I repeat “hand-written” letter to her apologizing for mistake and expressed my feeling to patch things up . I was lucky bastard ..man she was so kind , she reiterated that “this was not needed” “I’ll be your friend forever” . Nothing was most precious than those word for me ..I was happy to be alive that day ! I thought it could be another chance for me and this time I let the t-i-m-e factor to decide our fate ,don’t want to rush anything thought lets keep walking .We were back on talking trail again (Thank God ) , numerous conversation over office messenger and I found her again the one I was looking for . I thought that my search was over …so on Valentines Day I gifted her flowers remotely from UK . She had mix reaction.In Short I approached her again this year and kept “working” for her , hoping sooner or later she would sense how serious I’m for her , some of things I did for her ( not boasting , just acknowledging hard work here ) . I gifted her perfumes,overcoat,shoes,bag and a collection of her all fav music and movies from most expensive fastion street of London to impress her just for the sake of returning courtesy to her in accepting me again , believing that “I’m driving this” and “It might turn out in color” .
This is one is from India when I was back in here in month of May , we have met only thrice till date after that.
First `As Shaadi.com Advisor`> When she insisted me to register it to jeevansaathi and to say “Do not bank your hope upon me” ( WTF )
Second ‘Sleeping in my car ‘> I always found her busy , whenever I call she say “I’ll call you back” which never happened or its the case of ignorance ( whatever ) however she promised that she will meet once she is bit relaxed ( her office / home is very reachable to my office ) but I found her attitude very lazy. So I insisted her to see her at ther place on next Sunday as she stated she was not feeling well these days. I said I’ll come to Gurgaon and with persistence she put the phone down stating “you won’t come from Noida to Gurgaon to meet me ” (WTF) . I decided to bet her on this and left my place at night 10:00 PM to Gurgaon , taking her dinner with me . By the time I reached she was asleep so I waited for her and slept in my car fighting mosquito till 8:00 AM in morning . I was happy to see her next morning . I almost forget how bad the last night was ! I can’t imagine myself doing this , I did or rather I say I developed courage to do such a wild thing only for her .
Third ‘She decided to move back to her native town’> It was when her job was almost taking toll on her health and time and she decided to move back to her native town. Though she was ignoring me for while ( sms/call/meeting ) she called me and narated her decision hearing this I canceled almost every plan just to catch up with her . As we met I offered her my help to let her out from this blue and came all the way from Gurgaon on bike fully drenched in rain .
In General She is not keen to meet /talk . Every time she is busy / occupied / not intrested in ‘meeting’ .So there were ‘half-duplex’ line and ofcourse it never work anywhere !
Long time no see / Her courtesy
Interesting case when she ditched me to watch my salsa performance at Sirifort auditorium .Though she promised me too “be there” by her own consent and just-in-time she ditched keeping her phone “outside meeting room to let other person answer calls ” and later I have one message stating “If I leave by now your show will be missed, I wish you luck” . She doesn’t know the background story that Neha ( my partner ditched me just one week back ) and I know how did I managed to keep the performance alive , I took the favor from unknown , ask my trainer to provide me some ad-hoc partner which they did , I’m glad. I did all this just to mark in front of Setu and she didn’t turn up . I just had her one sms thats it ! No phone call after the show , or post show or next day. She didn’t even bother to ask after show ( WTF) . Upon my exercise to dig out what had happened she replied back with numerous explanation and a statement that She will not talk to me forever (again) >> WTF ! I was confused and disappointed. I didn’t understand what to do when other person hurting you and then blaming you to be the culprit ~ WTF ! I still kept my patience ON , In fact she doesn’t know what the other things I was doing for her :
Learning Assamese : I took some private tution and running thorough online resources to learn her native language . Its just to surprise her and make it happy some day , show my true love towards her.
Fasting : Number of ppl taunt me hearing I’m on fast on Monday , yes here is the answer why .Despite all this , in a nutshell she doesn’t like me , always on verge of each an every opportunity to keep me apart .Plus I found her she is discourteous , she boast many things about her ( as a quality ) and crib system , people and make 100000000s of promise to do this , that , blah blah but she never came across any of them that shows she is worst in keeping commitment.
- She is a member of one of the expensive Gym in NCR and still she is not healthy nor fit .
- She works as Sales Manager and had a profile in finance domain and she is worst in managing small financial liability on her( which was trigger for her decision to move back to her native town )
- She tends to die in love marriage but she never found any one who can attract her “feel”She is WORST in returning Courtesy .
I’m not a love expert . I understand you fall in love or not its a secondry thing primary is your courtesy being human. You should be nice to your friends and family always.
I think all above lines are pointing whats going on internally to me ….so ITS OVER ~>>> I don’t deserve such a discourteous like her ! Love is a misnomer for me.
State of Happiness
UK Life
I start with my onsite experience . Yes , I had onsite ( ! ) . It was my luck and God grace that I had a chance to have the pleasure of being in onsite more than year time .April07 to May08 . I had a time of my life there plus I learn / analyzed things that I have never done in India . I stayed in Cheltenham for 1 year and 3 weeks in Basingstoke . I also discovered my traveling passion and being there to Germany and Poland too .
Starting from Cheltenham , It was challenging in beginning to handle work and managing myself plus cooking and other household stuff . It was also challenging for me as I was trying to overcome myself personally from f****** crush part ( This was serious one ) , I was revived for my wonderful time in a new relationship there but it was also came out to as forced bad choice and I end up having breakup again. It was severe for me as it was somewhere on different land where I don’t have any of my friends and family . It took me time to build strength from inside to live everyday working , cooking and hoping for better future . I decided to live for other and decided to invite my parents too UK ,this was brilliant idea and I made it , prior to LoveParade in Germany I had a chance to meet my parents in UK .It was memorable experience for whole family and it definitively bonded all members in strong bond. Plus watching my parents having fun and smiling was the ultimate experience . I’ve seen them so happy after very long time I guess . So far so good , I would say . My parents being to London Tour , their Scotland visit and leisure time in Cheltenham were the golden moment . We did shopping for each and every individual in family . Everyone was so happy. As everything come to an end I remember how I felt after they left England . Next day was so horrible ,it personally felt like I’ve couple of more breakup in row , I don’t wanna feel that nasty feeling again in my life .
Trance +Techno+Electronica +DJ+Livesets+Musik(-Drugs) = LoveParade.
Trance Valley …After all my craze towards Techno music ..I finally made it to LoveParade in 2007 , Germany.After all my all my hard work there and took my first break in August 25,26 to the Germany Love Parade . This was my long term dream to be there ’some day’ and I made it . I felt very proud that I actually witnessed the Dance Valley by myself Live ! It was an amazing experience
Here is the link to my LoveParade Blog << link >>
Apart from work part . I made quite lot of acquaintances there in Cheltenham. I made some friends too. Two of them are from my work team itself .Catherine and Chris, both of them are very nice gentle person . Catherine was so kind that she took me for horse riding and I met her lovely female horse “Teasel” . It was nice experience overall to know her and meet her family. I was overwhelmed with her hospitality too .
Chris and I went for drink one day and I actually discovered a friend in him . He is like a college student and youth by heart too. We clicked from one conversation to another , beer and conversation was a perfect combination , and he is the first person as a British that I know well enough. That night I came very very drunk hitting Cheltenham walls back to my place ,but it was day to remember . My social nature helps me clicking with others .
Overwhelmed by hospitality from both I decided to invite both of them for Indian Lunch courtesy my other Indian office colleague .
We all prepared multiple dishes for them including -
- Muttar Paneer
- Dal
- Raosted chicken with Lime
- Roti
- Aloo ki Subzi
- Beers n Wine
Here are the pics for same: click here
This were not the only social bites I had , Starting January 2008 all my office colleagues used to spent every weekend together by socializing at one place and making dinner / lunch together and these were the memorable moment now ,I really missed those happy weekend where there is no parking tension / car driving / petrol.
Shopping for everyone
Earning in GBP gave me chance to buy anything for everyone ( Thank God ) . Whenever I came back in flyback or for my final return I brought so many things that I’ve forgotten the counts and all of them were nice . It includes : Gadget for me , Wardrobe for family/friends ,Toys for kids ,special and most expensive gift for special person in my life. I remember whenever I skip my food or other thing to buy something for someone.
I’m glad everybody liked it …but not all of them.
Trip to Poland
You might ask me Poland ? But if you know me you should be saying “Yes , He made it ” ! Only single reason “Ania” .I cannot imagine how happy I was , feeling of meeting her again in my life . In fact none of us ever imagined that we will meet again .But I made it.
In short words , I met her in 2005 at my first office and was being asked for a favor to be a “Guide” for some woman from Poland : Ania and Monika came to visit India as a part of vacation . I did my job though I was very poor as a guide but was good ( and still ) intellectual and Ania and me clicked instantly.I helped them in buying train ticket for their India tour ( covered in 1 month approx .) and bit of shopping .
I must admit Ania’s nature , very friendly and flexible . I can never forget her “Red Bull Kiss ” . We didn’t had any physical contact neither none of us were interested but its something about her that made me to meet her again . And this fire within me took me to Poland finishing my UK assignment. I remember the CAP which I bought and offer both Ania and Monika as a slam book .
And I decided not too wash until I met them again in Poland ( this was in 2005 ) and I didn’t had a stable job at time and saving and big perks were out of question . I’m glad I made it in 2008 and I remember how happy Ania was to see me with same Cap in Poland at her place !
I do remember the last day of her in India , 16 April 2005 when I found myself upset in sleeping whole night ( nostalgic feeling of something going away ) . I thought its my adolescent crush again ( I had my gf by that time ) so I left this idea to go …around 5:00 in the morning …and guess what happened next second : I received a text message from Ania stating “She couldn’t sleep throughout the night, I was the reason” …OMG ..this was for real .Though we were not in any relationship but its something beyond crush, some sort of virtual connection . I remember her word while leaving India “Nothing last forever” .I’m very lucky that she still remember me and called me from Poland as soon as she reached there.I believed her and I made it to visit her in 2008 . She is very kind woman , she came to pick me up at Airport , this was the kind of breathtaking moment for me to meet her again , she recognized me with my long hair ( duh ! ) , took me to her place and introduced me to her boyfriend . we chatted a bit that night and I land up on my bed tired . Next day Ania had a party for her new house and I met so many of ppl there , Each and everyone was so nice , so keen to know about India and its culture . I remember the “No Vodka , No Life ” ! ( Polish ppl drink Vodka mostly ) and yes I gifted her t-shirt for her and her boyfriend along me “Indian Shoes” for Ania. She is crazy about footwear ! She liked them , I was elated.
Apart from my crush I also found :Monika, Izabella and Martyna nice person . Life gave me chance to meet them in real . After all three came in 2007 for India visit and I helped them out for ticket booking from UK .Thanks to my family member the did the real job. My family also invited all three of them for lunch at my place , it was simply memorable for all of us.
In Poland , Monika was my guide for a day in Poland ( Warsaw ) , here is the << link >> for photos . Martyna came to pick me up in different city Wroclaw and took me to Izabella place.Izabella is very very interesting personality , she is a very good speaker and had very big house and massive book collection I’ve ever seen !
- MS ( Software System ) , BITS-PILANI
Finally I completed my MS from prestigious Bits-pilani this year . <
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Ray of Hope
Initiatives
Technical consulting for society to tackle social problems :
After my UK experience I was tempted to ‘have’ the similar online organized network just like in UK from Ticket booking to Train booking to information on anything . So I made an attempt here in India . After impressive performance by Theater group ‘Mitr Cultural Society’ I made an effort to help those guys to setup their own blog which could support online ticket booking and feeds .
Having met with real artist offfline from stage was good experience . I wish them all the best.
Teach India
I signed up the very first day for such a great nation level initiatives. Thanks to Times of India . I’m officially enrolled from my office too So hopefully I would be going out soon in weekdays to teach the young guns. Fingures crossed.
Enhance local business by IT | Social consulting
As me being part of my dance class. My IT passion push me to take initiative to enable my dance class to have their own blog where students and trainer can put comments so that it could help dance freaks to share ideas and take this art forward with a blend of technologies.
State of Happines
Hobbies ( Dance and Muzik )
Spending 26 year in this planet and of my existence I’m now being sure of my musical sense that keeps me dragging my feet to one or any event /hobby related to music .
I’m crazy about music and just can’t live without it . College time gave me exposure to Trance / Techno muzik ( thanks to my peers ) and post college being an IT industry all the download-upload music channel , gave me access to the resource i need to survive and explore it further. LoveParade and Sun Burn injection is also to be blamed :) As of this writing I’m going to be in Goa , December 2008 for 1 week with my college pals …dammn let me use this word with proud : “Reunion ” ! God bless us !
And the matter of fact is I’m bit happy about it as this the only source of my happiness these days. I like dancing these days more than anything and having my hands dirty on : Salsa and Jazz classes . I wish I would be a good dancer some day ..thats it .
Say Amen !
Friends
Friends : Fuel of my Life : All my treasured friends ( All my College peers till date , my previous office pals ).I’ve earned some new friends , thanks to my dance classes : All of them are nice so far but not to much into going out socially )
Family
Definitively one of the prime base of my happiness . Strong and stable base always keep your smiling curve bend ! My lovely pair of niece have their own contribution here.
Taste of Delhi Culture
Since my UK trip I was very enthusiasm to take part in Delhi cultural activities so I started with theater and the matter of fact that I attended two of the theater ( comedy ) in Delhi :
- TajMahal ka Tender
- Bheja Fry
Both of them were totally hilarious and liked them so much , That I’m ready to go anytime to watch any comedy play with only one condition
: I don’t want to go alone ! I hope to see change in my statement sooner or later by recovering my social circle again .
Milestones achieved
Gadget Man is taling here : Most of ppl knows me directly of indirectly as and Gadget Freak / Gadget Man. (after my first breakup I suddenly got enthusiast to gadget somehow J ) or “Gadgets are better than girlfriend” !
Gadget List ver 1.1
- Sony Ericsson P1i | Current Phone
- Sony Erricsson Bluetooth MBW-100 | Show caller Identification on watch panel , Let me control my phone music player , And yes shows me current time too J <
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- Apple Video iPod 30 GB, 5th Generation <
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- Gear4 Blue Eye Bluetooth | Enable to pick n receive call on iPod itself, Remote for iPod | FM receiver for iPOD
- Gear4 House Party III | Sounding dock n charger for iPOD | FM Reciever with remote
- Kensington Pico iPOD FM Trnasmitter | Enable to transmit ipod songs to any FM receiver worldwide
- Kensington iPOD FM Transmitter with ipod Charger | Charge ipod while playing song , connect with Car cigarette lighter power source
- iPOD Wall Charger
- iPOD world Charger set
- Sony Cordless Headphone <
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- Multimedia HDD and Recorder 500 GB with Ethernet Port | Runs on embedded Linux ! <
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- Sony Free Agent Desktop
- Dell Inspiron D-400 Laptop <
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- Compaq EVO Laptop
- NetGear Wireless Access Point
- Numark DM950 USB Mixer
Finally I made it ,one rough college dream is finally came true . I have a proper hardware DJ mixer at my home , my place at my table ..oh man this is real ! Now I’m all set to try my hands dirty on mixing as well…hope my musical sensed guide me here too…
Wish me luck guys …for curious here are the <
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- MY Den and Creativity Lies Beneath
After post UK exposure to luxury life and visiting interesting ppl home at Poland , pushed me to he next level here. Though My den was already loaded by creative ideas everywhere, this time I decided to improve more quality . As picture are worth than 1000 words here are they …< Enjoy> ttttttt
Gadget List ver 1.1Sony Ericsson P1i | Current Phone
Sony Erricsson Bluetooth MBW-100 | Show caller Identification on watch panel , Let me control my phone music player , And yes shows me current time too J <
>Apple Video iPod 30 GB, 5th Generation <
Phone
>Gear4 Blue Eye Bluetooth | Enable to pick n receive call on iPod itself, Remote for iPod | FM receiver for iPODGear4 House Party III | Sounding dock n charger for iPOD | FM Reciever with remote Kensington Pico iPOD FM Trnasmitter | Enable to transmit ipod songs to any FM receiver worldwideKensington iPOD FM Transmitter with ipod Charger | Charge ipod while playing song , connect with Car cigarette lighter power sourceiPOD Wall ChargeriPOD world Charger setSony Cordless Headphone <
>Multimedia HDD and Recorder 500 GB with Ethernet Port | Runs on embedded Linux ! <
>Sony Free Agent DesktopDell Inspiron D-400 Laptop <
>Compaq EVO LaptopNetGear Wireless Access PointNumark DM950 USB MixerDJ console
Finally I made it ,one rought college dream is finally came true . I have a proper hardware DJ mixer at my home , my place at my table ..oh man this is real ! Now I’m all set to try my hands dirty on mixing as well…hope my musical sensed guide me here too…Wish me luck guys …for curious here are the <
> MY Den and Creativity Lies BeneathAfter post UK exposure to luxury life and visitin intresting ppl home at Poland , pushed me to he next level here. Though My den was already loaded by creative ideas everywhere, this time I decided to improve more quality . As picture are worth than 1000 words here are they << pics >>
New Sofa-Cum-Bed
Flower Flast ( with smal flask from Poland )
My MR.Organiser
Notice the use of BaseBall Bat here isn’t it coo …
King Size Train Ticket
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- System Admin dream comes true
This is my fav subject here to talk here. This is really an achievement that was on my hit list since I’m being introduced to computer field, exciting stories of how big company like Google and Yahoo came up. How geek lives there life and ‘automated’ and ‘robotic’ comfort life.
I got :
- Wireless Internet
- Web Server
- File Sharing
- Home Web Gallery
- media Jukebox
- Movie downloader 24X7
- and thats all running on my Linux !
My T-shirt collection
Yes I do have my T-shirt collection, you can see it here
UK V/s India
Though British already ruled us and looted us ,fetched money from India .I’m not a history expert but my analysis is we allowed them to take advantage of us . Before British India company there were no concept of India as a whole , each and every state has its own King, the used to fight with other state king to rule but none of them have worked toward one nation approach . when our freedom fighter did it was too late to reciprocate things ! Even after 60 years of Independence its still difficult to have the team work approach here , People still fight with other, hate each other . Background politics still rules .I’ve analyzed life after my UK experience.
Post return to UK , I feel this more often , People do not smiles . In the bus, in the car , on the way everywhere …happiness comes in chunks and as Lance Armstrong said ‘ its like a slipping rope from hands ‘ but in Indian terms its like ‘ So many ppl get seldom chance to hold that rope ‘ ! It never felt good to see sad faces . It felt like ppl without spark.
I wont say its a conclusion but it would be a starting point for me to work upon towards my 28 year. Journey was mix of good and bad , but I still thank God for all the good things almighty gave me this year, Specially giving me chance to make others happy too. Something that pissed me off very often :
Liars
Discourtesy
Professionalism behavior in India ( case study : Citibank )
Thanks to all of you who read this blog and pass posts on to friends. You have my gratitude.
Random Quotes from my mind –
If A,B are two person ..then “Courtesy” between them stretch from
C—-> Y !
Cya with next blog.!
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